Accused of being antisocial, labelled as shy, I learned at an early age that I am an introvert, which has been confirmed with each personality test I’ve been administered. As I was growing up, I also learned to love the church, earning rug burns swinging around the carpeted poles in Fellowship Hall with friends, adoring stained-glass windows in the sanctuary, meeting and celebrating Jesus, crying about fractures which formed within this family of believers. When I went to college, I found my new church to be the source of most of my friendships, but I felt awkward attempting finding my place, frequently feeling invisible, struggling to make smalltalk, expected to lead but hardly able to relate to the girls in my group, finally learning to bribe friends with food. The topic of Introverts in the Church is obviously of interest to me, so I requested a copy of Adam McHugh’s book from our public library after seeing it positively reviewed.
Characterizing introverts by being "engergized by solitude" (page 35), using "internal processing" (page 37), and having a "preference for depth over breadth" (page 41), McHugh, an introvert, combines his personal experience in ministry with research to present the strengths of introverts, some challenges they face, and potential ways to help introverts be part of the church community without requiring them to turn into extroverts.
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